Don’t Project Your Views

I wear my heart and my emotions on my sleeve. I oftentimes find myself getting angry about something and I end up taking it out on my wife or take it out on my kids.

I shouldn’t do that. What I need to realize that these are my own issues; that I may be upset with myself for something in a situation. In the grand scheme of life, whatever I am upset about is something so stupid, silly or small that it doesn’t really matter. Instead, I need to take each moment as it comes, and enjoy the moments we have with each other. I need to appreciate what life has to offer MORE.

Now I confessed above to you some of my shortcomings. We need to give as much as we possibly can give of ourselves to the people that we care about the most, the people we love. I haven’t always been the best at that. Here (hopefully) is your check. Don’t let your ego talk you out of it. What does this have to do with the title of this article? Everything. When you project your views on someone else, it’s your ego talking. It’s the same as the above situation described. Ego keeps you from owning your own issues, and it prevents you from communicating effectively with others. 

Face your fears. Face your ego.

I’ve heard a friend of mine speak of this before, and it’s true. Anyone driving slower than you is an idiot. Anyone driving faster than you is an idiot. It’s also true in the business world. Anyone charging a higher rate than you is an idiot. Anyone charging less than you is also an idiot. It’s just fascinating how our ego prevents us from enjoying moments. Our ego prevents us from owning our own issues and not projecting. This begs the question, how do you stop your ego from taking over? How do you stop yourself from projecting your views on someone else? Answer: Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself one question. What could I do in this moment to not get upset? This is a self-awareness check for me, and I hope this gets through to you as well.

Last night I got home from work and I could’ve kept working more on my business after dinner and my daughter Kendall asked me for some help.

I stopped, thought and said, “No, work can wait.” We went to Meijer and picked up some bedding for her and got her new bed put together and it was great Father-Daughter bonding time. Now my wife, of course, teased me about the fact that my daughter has me wrapped around her finger but I think we need to make moments to make memories and hopefully, that is a memory that will stick out to her in the future.

I encourage you don’t project your views on someone else. Take a look at the mirror. Try to figure out what it is you need to own out of your own issues, why you’re upset or why you may have an issue with something and don’t get angry at yourself. Don’t project that anger onto your partner. Take the time to be there for your family.  Life is about balance, and as the saying goes “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” It’s about the amount of love and care you put into the lives of those you care most about.